Letting emotions get the best of you
Today is like any other day. I’m working hard, waiting for the moment I can run out and grab that elixir of life, coffee. I walk out into the scorching sun, and head down the street to Lucy’s. As I arrive at the crosswalk, I notice an SUV is about to turn into my path. I allow this. Then I cross, but the guy behind the SUV goes to. If I had not been anticipating this scenario, I probably would have gotten hit. I was standing about 3 feet from his car when he crossed my path, and without even a thought I threw him the bird. He probably did the same in response…there was certainly something going on in there directed toward me, but the sun was glaring into the window so I couldn’t tell for sure if it was the finger or an apologetic wave.
I immediately regretted it. Why should I let someone so stupid and beneath me get my emotions up? They don’t deserve it, that’s for fucking sure. I feel the same way about biking. As I’ve previously mentioned, I usually get neutral to positive results whenever I put on a smile, wave, and respond politely to all negative attention, and that’s what I try to do. Unfortunately, anger and escalating behavior is my automatic response. It’s a struggle to put out those positive vibes rather than the negative ones, but the effort definitely pays off in my opinion. Even if my response doesn’t change the way the other person reacts, I feel better about myself, and I feel better about the situation.
After this experience I came back and read a post from Bikes and the City about Meli’s experience with some skank while riding. It reaffirms a conviction I’m sure many of us share: the only thing you can control in any given situation is the way that you respond. Be safe and wise out there friends!